Dear Gina -
I urge you to seek out a minister or counselor in your local area to provide you with some support for dealing with a special needs child and for your marriage. I don't know the situation for your marriage, but with all the stress you are dealing with regarding your child, it does strain a marriage. Paying for therapy compounds the problem with money issues in the marriage too. Even if it takes putting your child's issues on hold for a few months to work out your marriage issues, your child will benefit greatly from having two parents together supporting him.
As for your child's issues - it does take time and dedication to over come these things. Start by looking at his strengths. He does potty in the toilet, so he is half way to being trained! My son also had issues with not having BMs in the toilet & it went on for about 6 months. For him it was a power stuggle - so I just put him in Pullups during the day and when he did poop, I just cleaned him up and said something like - you will get it next time - so no pressure or pushing him to be a "big boy".
Having all of your son's therapists working together would be very benefical - if you can't schedule a telephone conference, could you take a note book to all therapy appts. and have the therapist write notes to each other?
As a mom you need to take care of yourself to be able to give the best to your child. I wish you the best, please give us an update sometime to let us know how things are going.
